Today's question is, how do I genuinely love without using Christianese? Well, first of all, Christianese is a fantastic thing. We all use it, we all have it, and in various communities, we have a different dialect of Christianese, a Christianese dialect that's different from community to community. So we do have Christianese, and people outside of that community aren't going to understand it. That's true in any culture: there are ways we say things other cultures will not understand. George Bernard Shaw attributed the quote, "The United States and Great Britain are two countries separated by a common language." Language matters.
So learn their language while you're listening - listening is vital in developing a love for another person. I have been awful at it, even with my friends, but it came when I traveled, made a lot of music, and spoke publicly. After events, people would want to talk, chat, or share, and I'd be looking all around. One day a friend came up and said, "Byron, you need to learn to be present in the moment." That changed everything for me, and it's been a true journey. Am I good at it? I'm getting better at it, and it's taken me a long time to get to where I am. But I've learned that genuinely listening without a need to respond helps people understand how greatly you care for them.
So, here's my question: how do you check that? Check your internal motive: Do you want to get on, or do you want it to end? Are you just wanting to get your point across? That's feasibly a wrong motive; check your reason. And go back to hearing the words they're saying.
Hey, thanks so much for reading. Have a great one.